As promised, here it is: 1 step a week to achieve that
dream of yours.
First, what is it?It’s a 9-step tool – in the form of a chart/process –
to formulate, analyse, plan, check and reach your dream.
Second, what’s a dream?A “dream” can be a goal, an
objective, a desire, or even…a dream! I prefer to use the word dream, even in a
professional context, to cover all of these. It makes it more exciting. BUT,
look at these two examples:
Lord, if only I were a millionaire, then I could do whatever I wanted…
want to publish a book.
The first is NOT a dream. It’s
a wishful thought, a “poor old me” statement, vague and not very concrete! A
millionaire through what? A miraculous rain storm with gold coins flooding down
instead of raindrops? A forgotten auntie who turns up at your door with a
treasure chest full of diamonds? A lottery ticket that – if we are to believe
the governments of this world – suddenly transforms you into a being richer than
Bill Gates with no effort required?
The second IS A DREAM. And it
is concrete. And when you do publish a book, then it might even make you a
millionaire in the process! So dreams are realisable. And remember, what may
appear a dream to one, may be different for another. For example:
Tom’s dream is to publish a
book. Sally’s dream is to go on a world tour. Pete’s dream is to meet the love
of his life. Charlotte’s dream is to live in New York. Raja’s dream is to spend
a holiday trekking in Mongolia. Jose’s dream is to own and run a philosophy café.
Hakim’s dream is to be a rock star. And Michaela’s dream is to ensure a
university education for her son and daughter. These are dreams: and they can
Third, the proof: A few years ago, something
happened to me – I lost my job. And with it, self-esteem, comfort, security,
pride, etc. I was in my 40s. And if you’re 45 and above in France, then the
chances of finding another job quickly (if ever, as unfortunately the case now
appears), are very slim indeed. I took a look back at the past, and a look
forward to the future: and decided the moment had come to reach my dreams. I
dug up something I’d come across while training as a coach, modified it
slightly, re-named it “the dream machine” and used it.
So I wrote a book and started
my own business. A year later Amazir
was published, without using an agent (almost unheard of), and it went to 2nd
place in a national UK literary prize. And my little business, much like a
toddler, slowly learnt to walk and is now running despite the obstacles the
country I live in puts in its way. So here is your chance too. Because another
dream I have – à la MLK – is for EVERYBODY
to reach their dream and – why not – taste
happiness! So do it.
Here's Step 1- easy! You've a week to think about and do it beforeStep 2 next week.What d'you think?
It would be nice to know you – and that’s from the heart. You’re 3,757 to
visit this stop off on your internet journey – from France, the United States,
the Ukraine, the UK, Germany, Russia, China, Japan, Australia, Canada, India, Mexico,
Algeria and even Nepal. And other places too.
I personally know some of you. And I think, in these very tough times,
it would be nice for you all to have a say too. Send me a word, drop me a line.
Make a comment. Speak to me of your hopes and dreams, work, family, sadness and
joy – and if you want, I’ll post you on the blog with a message to the world.
Send a mail to this address:firstname.lastname@example.org I’ll get back in touch.
So times are tough. It has been said. But they seem tougher now than ever.
Taking a step back and looking at the last 30 years or so, nothing much has
changed on certain fronts. Recession has been constant. Most of the same old
faces are still around, telling us what to do or promising us what they cannot keep.
We are taxed until life becomes more like survival than living. Wars are
fought. Extremes still sow panic. Systems stay absurdly the same. And England
still hasn’t reached the World Cup final (!).But there are beautiful moments too. And we must continue, must we not?
We must believe, hope, fall in love, gaze across the hillsides and walk by the
sea, start families, and follow dreams – for that’s what counts and what keeps
Your visits to this blog certainly help me, that’s for sure. They give
me a hope that maybe I can offer something. That maybe you in turn will be able
to give through the work that you will endeavour. And
that maybe what I write can offer the world something too (by the way, a
percentage of everything I write goes to charities – see posts - so your
gesture of buying and reading my books helps both others and the world
progress. And if, by bad luck, you can’t find the means to buy, then a jolly
review on Amazon, a Like, Tweet, Star or any other weird and wonderful positive
gesture would help just as much!). So thanks for your visits, thanks for your effort,
however long or however brief!
Talking of teens - I was a dreamer!
The new book of poetry –36 Exposures– has just been published, with an
end-of-year aim to donate to Vibrance Care Homes UK. The novel published in
March,The Kingdom of Emptiness, needs help and promotion – for it may well be
a story that changes the world for the better! And just for you, I’ve decided
to post something that I learnt a few years ago and that has helped me achieve
my own dreams. It’s a coaching tool: HOW TO REACH YOUR DREAM IN 9 STEPS. And
because I can’t technically upload the full thing in a document on this blog,
I’ll be doing it in steps – all 9 of them over the next 9 weeks. It works. For
me it did. And for those I’ve trained, coached and helped, it did. So you can
benefit from it too.
But before we begin (this coming weekend), it’s necessary to have…A
DREAM! So get thinking, get dreaming. Maybe you’ve already got one. If you
haven’t – and it’s very often the case – then go back to when you were a
teenager or even before. You remember – when your sleep and idle moments were
filled with dreams! And if you still can’t think of a dream that you want to
achieve, then ask yourself: “what if I woke up tomorrow? What would my perfect
life, my perfect world be like?” And there you’ll find your dream.
Kisses to all. And raising a beer to you too. Hope to hear from you soon
and look out for the coming weekend and the first step in reaching your dream!
Scribd. has place of honour to be the first outlet worldwide to feature Tom's collection of poetry - 36 Exposures. Give Scribd. a visit and remember:
A poem is a
page, if that. A stolen five minutes away from the crowd, the office, the
computer, the phone, the expectations and the obligations. It’s like a quick
and passionate kiss with a love – exciting, reassuring, rebellious and true. It
pierces the heart of the wider world but strangely is pointed directly at you. Enjoy. Tom xxx ;-)
The signs that something “arty” is
about to happen
Ever felt that second’s-worth of Oh?
Ever had a moment of Ah! And what
about that distant nagging sensation that lingers long after the idea you had
wasn’t written down? And do all these come back sometime further down the line?
Most probably yes. And most probably a sure sign that there’s a
wordsmith, song-smith or even art-smith deep inside you, well frustrated that you
won’t listen to its call. And can you blame it?!
For many years I battled with these muses and their tweaks, signs,
messages and grumblings – and turned a deaf ear to them with an excuse to do
other, more pressing things like work, phoning a friend, filling in the tax
form, or most importantly dozing off in front of an England World Cup football
These last four years, I decided not to. And I heeded their call. That
made the muse – or muses – very happy. For there’s nothing worse in life than
considering yourself beautiful and not being looked at. And Muses are beautiful. Since then, notebook,
back-of-an-envelope, computer and even the mobile have seen scribbled down
thoughts and ideas the moment the muse awakens.
Here are some of the signs: a checklist, if you like.
1.An “Oh”, an
“Ah!” or an “Ooh” when visiting somewhere different – something has triggered a
thought, emotion or memory deep inside you.
feeling when settling down to sleep at night – something you can’t quite grasp (and I’m talking about the sign the muse gave
to you here, of course)
days pass, a restlessness. You often glance out of the window, fidget, catch
yourself frowning in the hallway mirror (Is that
4.After the restlessness,
hesitation and blunder. Here, you do things like pick up the toast before
putting butter on it, or worse pick up the toast with the left hand and the
butter with the right – all the time forgetting that a knife is needed in the
process. You put on odd socks. You forget
your keys in the door, the grandmother you left guarding the supermarket trolley
by the special offer beer and wine shelf.
spread of grumpiness in you turns to the irascible. You begin to throw insults
at the telly and the England squad wandering dreamily about the pitch (yes, I
know the sweltering heat is usually to blame, as well as the French referee). The
f-word is used unsparingly for minor mishaps. You get angry.
positive way to express itself, the anger turns to the blues. You listen
long hours to Bumble Bee Slim records and consider taking up the harmonica. You
might decide to examine the clouds in the sky for long moments, generally bemoan
the state of the country and its cohorts of bureaucrats, and focus on every
dismal piece of news the media dishes out to you.
it – the whole damn thing and especially that nagging voice in the back of your
mind which says “what a waste!”
8.And it is
then – at that precise moment – that you should peddle backwards, seize a pen
and paper, and scribble for all you’re worth! YES – even if you do snub your nose at them, the Muses always offer you another chance to
capture what they’ve been trying to tell you!
9.So the idea
is written. It takes shape and a song, story, work of art, and poem is born.
And Gawd Blimey – all of a sudden you
feel pleased with yourself, on top of the world, and life seems the most
The lesson: Listen to the muse you have inside you – and always have a pen and paper handy!
The final stages of editing are coming to an end and it looks as if 36
Exposures – the collection of poems and dittologies – will indeed be on your
virtual shelves very soon! The collection is dedicated to Maurice Henry Gamble
and a percentage of all sales of 36 Exposures will be donated to Vibrance Care Homes UK where Maurice spent many years of his life, helped by the wonderfully
dedicated and caring staff who work there (thanks goes out to Marilyn for a beautiful account of Maurice's life at the home) .
A pre-launch snippet from 36 Exposures:
When you come, usually brusque in
With a smile and the way you have
of stooping slightly
Forwards through the finishing
tape to the future,
So the magic begins.
It startles me – these sudden
magpies and their ritual dance,
The unexpected opening of doors
and sunshine just on us.
And why should everything reveal
The mundane uncover such wild and
It is the beginning, I know – but
it still enchants.
else on your commuter train. Take a break from the crowd. Sneak out into the office
grounds and spend lunchtime in the park. Take your Reader, pick up your
book, switch on your mobile and steal five minutes to look! The faster we go,
the more poetry beckons us.
believe there’s a future in it. A poem is a page, if that. A stolen five
minutes away from the rush, the office, the computer, the phone, the
expectations and the obligations.
It’s like a quick and passionate kiss with a
love – exciting, reassuring, rebellious and true. It pierces the heart of the
wider world but strangely is pointed directly at you.
After a day at the publisher's, here's the latest proposal for the front cover to 36 Exposures. Watch out for the launch date - coming soon!
Do you have a completed manuscript? Are you looking for a trigger to set you on the way to becoming a published writer? Do you have a story or poem you believe in? If so, take a look at the competitions page at the Society of Authors and...go for it!